Overcome my shyness: 4 steps

Jean Willy Alcide Jean Willy Alcide 99 Comments Reading: 4 min
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In my life, shyness was the hardest thing to overcome because, it impacted me in much of my life. I'll explain.

I'm very black, so in the city where I grew up the boys and girls called me by the worst names on the planets because of my color. The worst thing is that I grew up with my stepmother who always explained to me the level of prejudice.

Small, no possibility of reaction I was always thinking how to end prejudice. Finally the result was that: as a Christian I never actively participated in the things of the church, I never asked questions about class matters, in summary I was a person of closed face, without a friend, without everything. I was always available to start a fight.
But to come a time where I felt that I could not stay like this…
I decided to change that. But how? Because the environment was the same.

The Great the Change
I talk about change because I was at the bottom of nothing, and I managed to get out to write this article and motivate you about what is possible with the power of your mind.

  1. The first thing I did was to "develop the great will" to be a guy who can speak in front of any group of people. I think, I think, I think more every day. What I felt was the happiness of being a being that existed. But every time I stopped thinking, I came back in the same place.  I didn't even know if I had so much happiness in thinking that I could speak in public. I was listening to a radio show and I decided to move on to the second stage.
  2. In front of the mirror
    I looked back in the mirror (because I spent 1 year without doing it) to accept me. Now what I've been doing is really bad. Because I didn't have the things I wanted to have in my body. For example: straight hair (I have curly hair), elongated nose and thin (mine is too big), height of 2.00 meters (I only have 1.75 meters). And my hope again fell. But I talk if I accept to look at myself in the mirror now I'm progressing, the best thing is to pass the third level.
  3. Buy and read books on the subject
    Luckily I went to an uncle's house and started reading and writing notes too. But after reading the whole book, I started saying, "These things are going to work, it took me many days."
    And coming one day I decided to try these techniques because I had nothing to lose. Instead of doing that I preferred to buy more books.

    How to make friends and influence people was the basis of my development. But I can read also "Prenez de l'altitude abdiquez la bonne attitude. All were in French. So not to pass as a person who is masturbating intellectually, I decided to pass on what I can call fourth level.

  4. Putting into practice
    If you have a knowledge, and you never use it, in a few weeks you'll forget everything. So I knew that, so I decided everything in practice.

    I returned to the front of the mirror, was to decide to accept me as I am and also to engage with myself. I've engaged myself to accept everything I have that I can't change and change everything that's possible to change. As by magic, I was proud to assert myself without fear of what a person could say about my physique. That means I started to have confidence, I started opening my friendship circle and chatting with people I didn't know was very cool and stressful too. But in this period of practice, the most stressful moment was when I was supposed to present a document on the environment in front of NGO general Director while I was a teacher. When I got to the front I started trembling with fear because I kept saying that everyone has a salary bigger than mine. And quickly I came to think that I was not in front to do a payroll comparison, rather I was present to explain to them what they did not know. So after this presentation I was applaude standing.
    This lasts a long time, because I managed to end the big part of this shyness in my 24 years and still have a lot to do. But I know now that I'm closer to the best.

In the end, I'm continuing to apply these things in my life. The great will to be a great speaker require me to imitate people like Barack Obama, so I'm always in front of the mirror to keep convincing myself of all the things I can do, and no one needs to know what my physique is, the world is always needing of my ability. So to acquire the ability to present my knowledge I'm always buying books on that subject. And then try to find the place to apply everything I have in order to participate in the positive development of the world that we all deserve.

Do not forget, the Mirror has the secret of acceptance of you, the books have the techniques necessary to apply in our life, life always offers us opportunities that we can avail to apply techniques. And our body was made to grow, so start today and the result will surprise you.

In the comments, tell me what's going to happen if you don't change?
And what are you going to be for the next five years?

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